A Matter of Perspective

by Ron DuBois on June 1, 2011

Life can be fleeting. How many times have you heard that? Where did the time go? Suddenly you wake up one morning and realize summer is over or your 40 or some other milestone has come and gone. You look back over the time and realize that you haven’t accomplished as what you had hoped to accomplish. Do the exercise I’ll explain to you today and you won’t suffer this disappointment again.

The first thing we want to do is stop looking backwards. Tomorrow will be the best day of your life! Looking forward, focused on what is most important to you, write down a short list of who you want to be, what you want to do, and what you’d like to have. Take a piece of paper and make three columns on it.

Write quickly without regard for “reality.” No need to go in order, just fill in the categories as ideas enter your mind.

Imagine you have unlimited resources, unlimited support, and unlimited abilities and write from the heart.

If you could be anything, anything at all what would you be, a pilot, a Doctor, a bestselling author? Don’t worry about how right now; just write the “what.”

What if you could do anything you want, anything at all? What would you do? Climb a mountain, sail around the world, fly a Russian Mig? Don’t judge yourself here, just write out a list of things you really want to do before your time on this earth has lapsed.

The have list is an interesting one to tackle. Most people I’ve talked with have a little trouble with the “be” and “do” lists, but no problem at all filling pages of “have.” So I want to take moment to offer you an alternative perspective. Cars, boats, planes, big houses, and other “things” are all nice things to enjoy. The problem is that it isn’t long before there is a real question about who owns what, or rather what own whom.

That new plane is awesome when you first get it. The freedom to fly anywhere you want is similar to the freedom you felt when you first learned to ride a bike, or got your driver’s license. However you soon realize that the plane is keeping you from doing other things you might rather be doing. Same with the boat and the vacation home. Owning things, ties you down. Owning things limits your choices. Owning things drains resources you could use in other areas of your life. Unless you can turn owning that thing into a source of revenue, I recommend you rent rather than buy most items on your Have list.

By focusing your time and efforts on the Be and Do lists you will be much happier next time you look back in time.  Tomorrow we’ll take a look at the Be Do and Have lists and use them to start building your plan.

Your comments are always welcome, take a minute and give me some feedback, share some of your list, or provide some advice of your own.

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